1. A child is brought to my home. He is clinging to his parent, and his wails precede him into the house. Parent and I exchange needful information over the uproar, and then the parent leaves, clearly in distress. It's hard. It's hard to leave your child when he is crying and needs you. 2. One of my tots is dropped off. "Bye!" she crows, cheerfully, and toddles off. Parent lingers, then leaves reluctantly, dispirited, saying something like "She doesn't care!" (Or "Don't miss me too much", or, speaking for their child, "Yeah, yeah, mom/dad, you can leave now.") It's hard. It's hard to leave your child and have them so obviously not need you. I feel for my parents. It is hard. But of course, your child always needs you, happy or sad. Your child needs you whether you're present or not. Your child needs you in his/her life, needs your love, needs your nurturing, your guidance, your unrivalled concern. However, your child does not need your physical presence every second of the day. It is good for the child to have a circle of adults who love him/her, a circle of people s/he can trust. So, if your child cries when you leave, that's okay. They love you. Just trust them enough to believe that they will cope just fine. And they will - it generally takes about 36 seconds after your departure for those tears to dry and the child to begin to play. And if your child doesn't cry, that's okay, too. They're happy and secure in the place you've chosen for them. Good job! So, don't worry, mommy and daddy: Your baby will do just fine, and so will you!