Friday, September 16, 2005

Sleep, Little Baby

Please. Little Alice is the unhappy recipient of a little sleep training these days. I'm not sure how much success I can expect to have since I only have her two or three days a week. Her sleep patterns are erratic and generally insufficient: 25 - 45 minutes is not enough for a child her age - or for me! I'm aiming for an hour an a half, minimum. Each and every day. Today she made it to an hour without waking. Progress, indeed. I decided I would insist on the extra half hour. At time of writing, she is - intermittently, thankfully - registering her heart-felt indignation, one might well say outrage, at this situation. This is progress. Last week it was not intermittent. At all. And in another 4 minutes I will go rescue her. And me, I sip my tea, I blog a bit, I tidy the kitchen, I hum to myself, because it's Friday, and I am less than two hours from the weekend!!


Anonymous MIM said...

Sounds like progress. Sleep training is my least favorite thing to do. But once through it, life is wonderful!

I ALWAYS insist on an hour and a half with Tod-lar. If he wakes early, I don't enter his room until the hour and a half mark. Often, he just goes back to sleep.

9/16/2005 03:56:00 PM  
Blogger Mary P. said...

mim: Alice's mother was astonished to know that Alice would go back to sleep after waking a few minutes into a nap - she'd never tried it. Well, that explains a lot...Not that should have been surprised.

9/16/2005 05:00:00 PM  
Blogger Homestead said...

Ok, I'll go ahead and be the doofus and ask: What is Sleep Training??

I had to ask Susan what attachment parenting was... so that just tells you what level of parent I am.... I mean, I've read the books but I thought they were all just for reference... you know, guidelines & theory. I thought you just did what you did and hoped instinct, divine intervention and a thoughtful daycarista would point you in the right direction.

9/16/2005 06:17:00 PM  
Blogger Candace said...

And see, Homestead, THAT is why your child/children will grow up happy and healthy and not damaged.

My two cents.

9/16/2005 07:36:00 PM  
Blogger Mary P. said...

homestead: "Sleep training" refers to the notion that babies can be taught to sleep in reliable, sufficient patterns, and that parents don't have to wait in sleep-deprived misery for the wonderful day that they opt to do it on their own. (Which, if they're not guided into good patterns, will generally be much, much later. yawn!)

I read book because I am an expert resource and guide for the parents. It's good to be able to give them a reliabe source to take home with them (as they can't have me 24/7)!

It's professional development for me as well. I also read books on approaches I essentially disagree with, so that I understand them, because I know some of my parents will choose that way! And maybe find some useful nuggets for myself there.

misfit: I know what you're saying: too much book-larnin' and not enough trust in oneself makes for weakened parenting. I went a long space where I didn't read them at all: I had evolved my patterns that work well, and the books were boring me.

Books can offer useful assistance, though. As long as you find the books that support your style, and aren't trying to fit yourself to someone else's mold and expectations, they can be helpful.

9/17/2005 07:51:00 AM  
Blogger Juggling Mother said...

Sleep training - I have tried with all three, with only limited success. Possibly because ALL the books & info I read tells me to give them extra feeds late at night - usually stating amounts & frequency. Unfortunately, my breasts do not have Fl Oz marked on them, nor can you force a baby to suck more out of you!

My btechniques worked on naps, but no full nights until they were a year old & no longer feeding!

9/17/2005 03:34:00 PM  
Blogger Homestead said...

Ok people... I'm going to let you in on a (not so) secret bit of info.... I'm a good parent because... I have a great kid. Seriously. I just provide a little guidance and some snacks. The kid just makes me look good. (And not in that "my child is an accessory" way)

I understand the concept of Sleep Training and I've tried to apply some of it. Honestly, the best thing I did for getting him to sleep through the night was turn off the baby monitor. He pretty much naps like a champion at home but I don't think I had much to do with that.... Still doing a morning and an afternoon nap of about 1.5 hours each (although he's been down for over 2 hours this afternoon but I can hear him playing now... as soon as I start hearing the thunk-thunk of toys being pitched out of the crib I'll go get him).

And boy-oh-boy isn't it the truth about the daycarista being the resource for all-things-kid to parents. Our DCL can rattle off toddler serving-sizes and always has ideas for dealing with behavior things.

Oh, geez. I've just hijacked your comment section.... sorry. But thanks for the info. Ok, I can hear someone saying, "Go. Go. GO." upstairs... and so I GO.

9/18/2005 06:49:00 PM  
Blogger Mary P. said...

Homestead: You're showing me a couple of things you've done right. Throwing out the monitor, for starters, and letting him play in his crib while he's happy, even though you know he's awake. This indicates you're the type of mom who doesn't leap to your child's aid at the slightest provocation. The type of mom who will leave him alone enough for him to learn that he CAN sort things out himself. And probably you can put up with a bit of crying if it means teaching him healthy habits.

So, yeah, you may well have a "good sleeper"; sounds like you do. But he also has a good mom!

(And I love that term, "daycarista".)

9/19/2005 08:09:00 AM  

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