Thursday, June 15, 2006

Like Father, Like Daughter (Except I thought the Daughter was the Two-Year-Old)

My parents are arriving at the end of the day. TallDarkDad parks his station wagon on my side of the street - which, I might add, he shouldn't do. There is no parking on my side. Dad in his I Have-Money-to-Burn-on-Gas SUV pulls up on the other side. Quiet Mom arrives with her stroller. I chat with Quiet Mom while TallDarkDad and SUV Dad load their offspring into their cars. I notice that a neighbour is stopped in the street, unable to pass between illegally parked TallDarkDad and the door of Honkin'Big SUV, which is opened on the street side. Now, by rights Illegally Parked Dad should move, but as he's on the sidewalk side of the car, my neighbour would have to wait till he finished with the carseat. SUV dad, meantime, will only have to shut his side door for a sec. I call across to SUV dad, indicating the waiting car. He nods, the neighbour releases brake - and he goes back to putting his child into the car! Neighbour brakes, hardish. I am a little astonished by the rudeness. All that was required was for him to swing the door shut for the .62 seconds required for her to pass. "That's my neighbour, you know!" I call. With a smile, but also with just a teeny bit of an edge in my voice. He looks up and shrugs. "I was here first." Gee. Toddler logic in an "adult" mind. He'll go far. Any way I can put a 6'3" man in a time out? He has SO earned it.


Anonymous kyra said...

he deserves a time out!! you know, sometimes i'm certain i can see people like that actually slow down when they notice they are holding someone else up. go figure.

6/15/2006 08:05:00 a.m.  
Blogger Mamacita Tina said...

So much for common courtesy. It's all about ME, ME, ME, and looking out for #1.

6/15/2006 09:04:00 a.m.  
Blogger Heather said...


I'd sure like to see you put him in a time out. I'd suggest taking his car away until he appologized to the neighbour...

6/15/2006 09:25:00 a.m.  
Blogger Jenorama said...


I got to meet Tall Dark Dad!


6/15/2006 09:45:00 a.m.  
Anonymous kerry said...

it's a sad commentary on society, isn't it? it's all too pervasive anymore for people to just do their thing with no regards to others. sheesh! if you come up with a solution for putting him in a timeout, let me know what it is! LOL

6/15/2006 09:53:00 a.m.  
Blogger Anne V said...

I've called SUV's Stupid Utility Vehicles for a very long time and it's not always because of the car itself.....

6/15/2006 10:49:00 a.m.  
Blogger Kristen said...

ARGH. That is so disappointing, on so many levels.

6/15/2006 11:42:00 a.m.  
Blogger twoboysmom said...

I'm sure he assumes it is his "civil right" to be a pompous jerk. Time out is definately in order as well as a walk to the neighbor's house to apologize!

6/15/2006 12:34:00 p.m.  
Blogger AverageMom said...

"I was here first"? What the hell?! I often wonder about parents. There should be a test you need to take before you get to reproduce.

6/15/2006 12:54:00 p.m.  
Blogger Juggling Mother said...

You could try one of those "please be considerate to the neighbours" posters or leaflets in their next bill. he probably wouldn't understand it tho:-(

I spent this morning on the phone to the police again today, trying to get illegally parked Merc who was completely blocking my driveway towed so i could get my car out & do something useful for society. Some people just don't think - or even look around them, ever.

6/15/2006 01:14:00 p.m.  
Blogger Momma to LG said...

I love your blog! I used to be a teacher before me daughter was born and man to parents surprise me! It often becomes clear why a child acts the way they do when I meet the parents. It is like the lightbulb goes off!

6/15/2006 01:16:00 p.m.  
Blogger L. said...

In Tokyo, a friend of mine came over once and parked directly in front of my neighbor`s garage. I had no idea she`d done this -- until we heard him honking up a storm, becuase he wanted to take his car out.

She didn`t even apologize to him.

I had to knock on his door later and do the formal bow-and-apology, and explain, "She`s from New York City, and she`s a little crazy."

Maybe it`s time for you to start a PICKUP PARKING policy? Or, if you already have one, time for a friendly reminder message?

6/15/2006 02:24:00 p.m.  
Blogger Peter said...

Jack Ass!

6/15/2006 02:56:00 p.m.  
Anonymous the weirdgirl said...

I swear there are some people that actually get worse about this sort of thing the older they get. So much for growing up.

6/15/2006 05:54:00 p.m.  
Blogger kittenpie said...

Oh god, if you figure out a solution for rude, obnoxious so-called adults, let me know, will ya? I could use it around the library. Ours are quite entitled - one staff member has taken to calling them the "plantation owners." I bet he's not much better to you either, so sorry you have to put up with him.

6/15/2006 08:18:00 p.m.  
Blogger Granny said...

I'm glad his child has you as at least a partial influence.

6/16/2006 12:49:00 a.m.  
Anonymous Jennifer said...

Hey! I know this guy! He's EVERYWHERE in my neighorhood, and not just as a man!!!!

I despise ppl like that...

Happy Friday!!!

6/16/2006 09:57:00 a.m.  
Blogger Mary P. said...

Kyra: I've never particularly warmed to this guy, but nor had I particularly disliked him. Now I quite don't like him. Thankfully, he's gone in another couple of weeks.

MamacitaT: "I was here first." Me, me, me, indeed. How pathetic is that?

Heather: Of course! What a great response. Now, how could I manage that? I suppose, if I was feeling very brave, I could steal the keys from his ignition while he puts the kid in the seat... Commando Manners Police! heeheehee

Jen: Asshat. I like that word.

TallDarkDad is just that, isn't he? Take in the 5 o'clock shadow that was practically a beard?

Kerry: Well, there is the steal his keys fantasy scenario, but I just can't see doing it, somehow. I'm just crossing out days on the calendar till the end of June. Sigh.

AnneV: I'm with you. Don't come complaining to me of the price of gas if you drive one of those suckers.

Kristen: It is. You'd think we could expect more of adults, but you just can't. Oh! For a truly awful "adults as adolescent" story, check out poor Sunshine Scribe's field trip story! Just when you thought you'd left middle school behind...

twoboysmom: The irony here is that I've heard him complain about other people's manner, and other people being full of themselves. Probably because they didn't get out of his way fast enough. I'm probably in that camp now, because I expected HIM to move...

AverageMom: I've thought about that before, but always get stuck on who you'd allow to create the test! But still... Basic good manners go far.

MrsA: No, he wouldn't. People are rude to HIM. HE'S not rude to others! Because, like the man who blocked your drive, his only reference point is himself.

MommatoAshley: Hello! Welcome! Yup, the aggressive kid who's greeted with a barked command; the kid who shoves to the front of the line climbs into the car of the woman who cut in front of the school bus; the complaining kid of the whiny dad... I can see it.

L: Why is an apology so hard? Though of course, no one was owed an apology in this instance, since he was "there first." Sheesh.

Yes, I will institute a parking policy in the fall, when I get a new crop of client.

Peter: Amen.

WG: I'd put him at about age fourteen, all in all. With an elevated sense of his own importance.

Kittenpie: He's been decent to me, but it's clear he's looking forward to leaving as much as I am to see him go. There are smiles at the door, still, but they're getting a little forced. On both sides. It's time.

Granny: Only for another few days. They're gone at the end of the month.

Jennifer: Yes, I've seen him in a few incarnations, myself. Keeping my fingers crossed that he doesn't reappear in the next group of parents!

6/16/2006 10:59:00 a.m.  
Blogger CINDY said...

WOW! I assume that these parents do NOT know about or read your blog, about themselves ?

6/16/2006 11:15:00 a.m.  
Blogger appleseed said...

Some people just suck sometimes! Some people suck all the time...
I hope the kids don't pick it up, too.

6/16/2006 10:28:00 p.m.  
Blogger sunshine scribe said...

Oh how rude. That drives me nuts when people have such an inappropriate sense of entitlement. Sheesh. He sure did deserve a time out!

6/17/2006 07:16:00 a.m.  
Blogger Andie D. said...

He really said "I was here first"? That's my FOUR YEAR OLD's current favorite refrain.

That, and "She started it."


6/18/2006 12:23:00 p.m.  

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